Cultivating Joy


We humans are a curious bunch, navigating existential crises while also wondering if we left the stove on. We ask ourselves grand, sweeping questions like:  

• How do I find inner peace?  

• What does it mean to truly live?  

• Where are my car keys??  

For me, the path to peace involves embracing contradictions. I have learned that wisdom hides in foolishness and that missteps can be the very best teachers. I have tripped—both metaphorically and literally—many times. And each time, I uncover new lessons (and occasionally new bruises).  

With gratitude may I walk this path fearless, joyful, and occasionally ridiculous. May my heart remain happy, free, and open to possibility.   

At any moment, I can choose presence, joy, and curiosity—or succumb to fear, regret, and the familiar grip of my old anxieties. But lately, I prefer the first option, with a splash of humor and a dash of adventure.  

So, here’s to living wisely foolish. To discovering meaning in the messiness. To laughing at the absurdities while savoring the profundities. And most of all, to arriving—fully, freely, and with gratitude

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